Comments on: The Flip Side of Expat Guilt http://futureexpats.com/the-flip-side-of-expat-guilt Create an Untethered Life Overseas Wed, 23 May 2012 15:53:52 +0000 hourly 1 By: FutureExpat http://futureexpats.com/the-flip-side-of-expat-guilt/comment-page-1#comment-5645 FutureExpat Sat, 10 Jul 2010 17:23:24 +0000 http://futureexpats.com/?p=2381#comment-5645 I'm so glad Barbara's article was helpful to you, and best of luck in your new Canadian adventure! I’m so glad Barbara’s article was helpful to you, and best of luck in your new Canadian adventure!

]]> By: Delphine http://futureexpats.com/the-flip-side-of-expat-guilt/comment-page-1#comment-5631 Delphine Sat, 10 Jul 2010 10:24:35 +0000 http://futureexpats.com/?p=2381#comment-5631 Thank you Barbara, you can't imagine how you've been helpful to me. Reading your story I feel more confident now with my decision ; I ve been living in Nice,France for 20 years and I will move to Vancouver , Canada in september with my 3 yrs old daughter, divorced, unemployed, I want to change my life over there where I already have a job waiting for me ! BUT : the guilt is there inside of me , the sadness to think of my mum (and dad) missing both of us , she's very homebody too and I will translate your story to her , hope she will see things differently and I already imagine her flying over the Ocean and can't wait to hug us an discover beautiful Canada. Departure the dday will be harsch but it s gonna be ok , it s my life, my decision... Merci beaucoup Barbara ! Thank you Barbara, you can’t imagine how you’ve been helpful to me. Reading your story I feel more confident now with my decision ; I ve been living in Nice,France for 20 years and I will move to Vancouver , Canada in september with my 3 yrs old daughter, divorced, unemployed, I want to change my life over there where I already have a job waiting for me ! BUT : the guilt is there inside of me , the sadness to think of my mum (and dad) missing both of us , she’s very homebody too and I will translate your story to her , hope she will see things differently and I already imagine her flying over the Ocean and can’t wait to hug us an discover beautiful Canada. Departure the dday will be harsch but it s gonna be ok , it s my life, my decision…
Merci beaucoup Barbara !

]]> By: Barbara http://futureexpats.com/the-flip-side-of-expat-guilt/comment-page-1#comment-5536 Barbara Thu, 08 Jul 2010 10:12:06 +0000 http://futureexpats.com/?p=2381#comment-5536 Thanks for commenting Forest. That's a good point about the vacation: when I come home I stay for 2-3 weeks. When I lived in the US, I never stayed for more than 2-3 days. True, I saw her more often, but now we get more quality time...or at least we did before I had kids! Thanks for commenting Forest. That’s a good point about the vacation: when I come home I stay for 2-3 weeks. When I lived in the US, I never stayed for more than 2-3 days. True, I saw her more often, but now we get more quality time…or at least we did before I had kids!

]]> By: Vanessa Joie http://futureexpats.com/the-flip-side-of-expat-guilt/comment-page-1#comment-5524 Vanessa Joie Thu, 08 Jul 2010 04:22:43 +0000 http://futureexpats.com/?p=2381#comment-5524 Wonderful post. Europe has a special place in my heart and I truly feel I was meant to live there one day. (I have for a few years at a time in the past) But yes, family guilt is a big factor. Wonderful post. Europe has a special place in my heart and I truly feel I was meant to live there one day. (I have for a few years at a time in the past) But yes, family guilt is a big factor.

]]> By: FutureExpat http://futureexpats.com/the-flip-side-of-expat-guilt/comment-page-1#comment-5505 FutureExpat Wed, 07 Jul 2010 22:16:39 +0000 http://futureexpats.com/?p=2381#comment-5505 Hi Forest, thanks for your thoughtful comment. I like your point about being X hours away by plane anyway -- my husband and I are in Central FL right now, about an 8-hour drive from his folks and a 4-hour-plus plane ride to my Mom. I keep trying to tell them if we're a plane ride away it doesn't really matter where the plane takes off from. . . Hi Forest, thanks for your thoughtful comment.

I like your point about being X hours away by plane anyway — my husband and I are in Central FL right now, about an 8-hour drive from his folks and a 4-hour-plus plane ride to my Mom. I keep trying to tell them if we’re a plane ride away it doesn’t really matter where the plane takes off from. . .

]]> By: FutureExpat http://futureexpats.com/the-flip-side-of-expat-guilt/comment-page-1#comment-5504 FutureExpat Wed, 07 Jul 2010 22:12:08 +0000 http://futureexpats.com/?p=2381#comment-5504 Lindsey, I just looked at your blog -- love your logo! Thanks for commenting. Lindsey, I just looked at your blog — love your logo! Thanks for commenting.

]]> By: Forest http://futureexpats.com/the-flip-side-of-expat-guilt/comment-page-1#comment-5493 Forest Wed, 07 Jul 2010 17:04:02 +0000 http://futureexpats.com/?p=2381#comment-5493 Nice post. I think family always has a bit of mixed feelings about our moves here - sadness of course that we are far away, but a bit of pride also that we are willing to take risks and come out successful. Plus, I always have to remind my parents that I live 5.5 hours from them by plane in the US - so whether here or there, I'd probably only see them once a year anyway. But, at least here I get more vacation so I can spend longer with them when I visit that one week. Still, parents will always worry, of course! :) Nice post.

I think family always has a bit of mixed feelings about our moves here – sadness of course that we are far away, but a bit of pride also that we are willing to take risks and come out successful. Plus, I always have to remind my parents that I live 5.5 hours from them by plane in the US – so whether here or there, I’d probably only see them once a year anyway. But, at least here I get more vacation so I can spend longer with them when I visit that one week. Still, parents will always worry, of course! :)

]]> By: Lindsey http://futureexpats.com/the-flip-side-of-expat-guilt/comment-page-1#comment-5492 Lindsey Wed, 07 Jul 2010 16:54:22 +0000 http://futureexpats.com/?p=2381#comment-5492 Beautiful Barbara! I wish my family would visit more, and there are definitely waves of the expat blues, but in the end, living abroad adds so much to our lives and subsequently to the lives of our families! Beautiful Barbara! I wish my family would visit more, and there are definitely waves of the expat blues, but in the end, living abroad adds so much to our lives and subsequently to the lives of our families!

]]> By: Expat 21 http://futureexpats.com/the-flip-side-of-expat-guilt/comment-page-1#comment-5491 Expat 21 Wed, 07 Jul 2010 16:46:31 +0000 http://futureexpats.com/?p=2381#comment-5491 A fascinating story, and lovely to hear about your mother's change-of-heart with regard to the move. A fascinating story, and lovely to hear about your mother’s change-of-heart with regard to the move.

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